The Reconnected Man

For men who are needed, but want more from life.

This monthYour Needs for Running on Full

Next open session · Wednesday 2 December · 08:30 CET

In four weeks you'll know one thing you want,
you'll have asked for it,
and you'll feel what changes when you do.

Without slowing down or doing less.

Watch this first

Reconnect with brothers who hold you to a higher standard.

2:38

“The results you're getting today are not a reflection of who you are today. They're a reflection of who you've been.”

Sounds like you?

“Stuff that’s just for me is not always the priority.”
“I’m supposed to have all the answers.”
“No one really listens, so you just keep to yourself.”

You already know.You've just got very good at talking over it.

You've had two options. Neither works.

So this is about doing different.

How It Works

01

Get Clear On What You Want

The personal unmet values and needs.

02

Ask For It

Asking for, and declining, with real intention.

03

Notice The Shift

It's never what you expected.

A simple outcome you already know you should have.So why haven't you?

The Relational Connection System™ VisionValuesVelocity

You don't arrive missing a pillar. You arrive with two of them borrowed, a vision someone else set and a velocity that serves it. Every month runs the same four weeks, with a new theme.

You can witness your truth, sit with it, and choose to simply feel it for what it is.

Be seen, heard and witnessed in your truth, amongst brothers you won't find among friends.

What this isn’t

No drumming
No ice baths
No breathwork
No alpha
No guru

01
Seen
Not the version you take to work.
02
Heard
All the way to the end of the sentence.
03
Witnessed
Somebody else knows now. That is what makes it real.
04
A higher standard
Brothers who expect more of you than your friends do.

Not a mastermind. Not therapy. Not a lads' chat.The conversations you don't get to have in your day-to-day.

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Daniel Lawson

I stopped asking for what I wanted, and called it something more respectable.

A coach asked me what my relationship values were. I said trust, honesty, respect, loyalty. He told me those were baselines, that if you don't have them you don't have a relationship, and asked what was truly important to me. I went blank.

I sat in a café and didn't move until I had something. What came out wasn't a list. It was a different question: how do I want to feel? That opened the whole framework.

I had walls, that I had been calling standards.

ICG Accredited6 Years CoachingGlobal Facilitator

From men inside

“I dropped something that had been working for years. Being certain about a decision, whatever comes of it. That's what I'm proud of.”

Jordi

“There was so much resistance to doing it. I did it anyway, and it was really nice. Then I realised I'd treated myself as well. I can't remember the last time I did that.”

Harrison

“I realised I can do a lot of this as a relationship with myself. Understood, supported, appreciated. I want that with someone. I want it with myself first.”

Alex

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This cycle

DecemberYour Needs for Running on Full
JanuaryEmotions for Feeling Alive Again
FebruaryBoundaries for Holding Your Line
MarchSelf-Acknowledgement for Winning Daily
AprilPersonal Responsibility for Getting What You Want
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Free

Wednesday 2 December08:30 CET / 15:30 Bali

Online, wherever you are

Registrations open now

Come, sit in it, and decide from the session rather than from this page.

Stay, and here's the four weeks.

Decide what you want. Ask for it. And see what happens.

Four sessions a month, each month a new theme with its own workbook
Live facilitation and hot seat work
The WhatsApp group with the other men between sessions
Complimentary 1:1 call on week 6

€89 a month, and your membership price is grandfathered. It never increases as long as you stay. Memberships roll over monthly. Cancel anytime.

The short application first is to ensure a strong mutual fit, for you and for the men already inside.

Common questions.

The work

Do I need to be in a relationship for this?

No. The men in here are single, married, separated, and everything in between. What they have in common is the pattern, not the postcode. One man rehearses who he needs to be before he opens the front door, another sits in the car outside a bit longer. Same pattern.

I already talk to my mates. Why would I pay for this?

Because of what gets said. Your mates get the version of you that's fine. In here the conversation goes where it doesn't go over a pint, and there's someone holding it so it lands somewhere rather than trailing off.

Isn't this just another men's group?

Most of them run on more force. More discipline, more commitment, more accountability. Force is usually what's already failing. We work the other way: find what the habit is paying you, and go around it.

Do I have to talk?

Yes. It's full participation, and your truth is your contribution. What you share, and how much of it, is your choice.

What do you ask of me in the sessions?

Three standards we keep together. Dedication: we all commit to the process by showing up like this work matters, because it does. Punctuality: a sign of respect to ourselves and each other, because time is a sacred resource here. Raw vulnerability: real, unfiltered, and fully present. And one intention out of every session: your ask. Either response is a win. Yes is what you want. No is truth and clarity.

What happens after four weeks?

Keep building, with the same ask or a different one. Go deeper 1:1 with Reconnect, which includes complimentary access to The Reconnected Man. Or take what you've got, and go use it.

I'm not ready yet. Where do I start?

Take the Protection Archetype Quiz. A few minutes to find which of five patterns you are running, and what it is costing the people closest to you.

Are there upsells coming?

No. There's 1:1 work in Reconnect if you decide you want more, faster, deeper. Join Reconnect and your place in The Reconnected Man is complimentary. Same work, same direction. More personal.

The practical side

Can I come once before I decide?

Yes. The first session of every month is open and there's no charge for it. Come, sit in it, and decide from the session rather than from this page. After that it's €89 a month, and you're grandfathered: your price never increases as long as you stay.

Can I cancel?

Yes, any time. It's month to month, and your membership runs to the end of the month you've paid for.

What if I'm away for a month?

You can pause once a year, for up to a month, and you keep your price. Ask before your next payment.

Is what I share kept private?

Yes. What you share stays between us. I sometimes draw on a line or a theme from a session in my writing, without anything that could identify you, and I'll always ask you first before using anything that does, like a clip or a testimonial.

Where does it run?

Online, so you can join from wherever you are. Nothing to travel to and nothing to arrange around it.

Do I need to attend every session?

No. Life moves and the men here know it. Come when you can, and know that the men who turn up regularly are the ones who feel it shift.

When do sessions run?

Wednesdays, 08:30 CET / 15:30 Bali. Come to the open session and you'll see how it sits with your week.

What does the fee include?

Facilitation, hot seat work, resources, and the men you'll meet. It's largely a filter.

Ready?

Know what you want, and ask for it in four weeks.

Next open session Wednesday 2 December. Free to attend, short application form first.

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